Men and fathers
Psychotherapy for men and fathers
Many of the men who come here are good at their work, present for their families, and privately aware that something is off: anxiety that never fully settles, a temper that surprises them, a marriage that has grown quiet, a separation they want to get through without harm to their children, or a success that has arrived and does not feel the way they expected.
What we work on
The work centers on how men handle emotion, and on what happens when the strategies that made them effective stop working. Many men learn to manage feeling by containing it, and containment holds until pressure at work, conflict at home or a loss makes it impossible. We look closely at those moments: how you respond to frustration, criticism and distance, and what makes an important change hard to sustain.
We also give room to your ambitions: developing your strengths, doing work you care about, being more present in the life you are building. Steadier feeling is rarely the whole of what men come here for. More often it is a life that feels their own, with work, a marriage and a household worth the effort they demand.
For men whose work or sport is itself the pressure, that work is described on its own page. Therapy for performance
How sessions go
Many men are wary of therapy that feels vague. We are direct. We say what we notice, explain our thinking, and connect what we talk about to what you are dealing with each week: the argument that repeats, the shutdown under criticism, the decision you keep postponing.
Skills from dialectical behavior therapy address those moments, practiced on your actual situations, while psychodynamic work helps us understand where the pattern comes from. In Cognitive Behavioral Psychoanalysis (CBP), the model this practice works from, those are one treatment rather than two. Throughout, we keep your goals in view, whether a closer marriage, steadier parenting or a career move.
Fatherhood and divorce
Many of the men who come here are fathers, and many are going through or have been through a separation. Some come after an affair or its aftermath, on either side of it. Many want to give their children what they did not get themselves, and to stop passing on what they grew up with. Therapy is a place to think clearly while emotions run high, to respond to your children and their other parent in ways you can respect later, and to rebuild a life that feels like your own.
Who you would see
Dr. Inzinna sees most of the men who come to this page. Carlos Espinal, LMSW, also works with men and fathers, among them Latino men and their families, with sessions in English or Spanish, and sees children and adolescents when a son or daughter needs support of their own. About Dr. Inzinna · About Mr. Espinal
Getting started
The first conversation is a free 15-minute phone call with Dr. Inzinna or Mr. Espinal. Sessions are held in person at our office on East 89th Street.